Parents angry after school tells 13-year-olds they can have sex, choose gender

by Christine Kalmbach

9th grade students at a California high school are being taught sex education by Planned Parenthood unbeknownst to parents! Planned Parenthood’s devious, back-door methods to get to our children shows up this time at Acalanes High School.

See more on this article from Perry Chiaramonte at Fox News:

Students at one northern California high school are learning more than just the birds and the bees.

Along with local area groups, some parents are irate that their children’s sex ed class at Acalanes High School in Lafayette is being taught by employees of Planned Parenthood without their prior knowledge. They are also fuming over the methods and materials being used, including a checklist that asks students if they are “ready for sex” and another worksheet that describes how to give and obtain consent, as well as a diagram that uses a “genderbread” person for lessons in gender identity.

“[Parents] are very concerned,” Brad Dacus, president of the Pacific Justice Institute, a non-profit legal organization that is assisting the concerned parents, told FoxNews.com. “Planned Parenthood is not exactly the best when it comes to putting young people first.

“They get more grants from the promiscuity of children,” he added. “The material they have provided was material that mirrored their agenda.”

It was the parents of ninth-graders at Acalanes that started raising questions after their children told them one instructor threw a model of female reproductive organs at one student and that many felt the sessions were pressuring them to have sex.

“Some of the kids were distracted because it was divergent from what they were taught at home,” Dacus said.

Acalanes Union School District officials told the institute the class was not taught by teachers but rather the staff from a local Planned Parenthood in nearby Walnut Creek.

Included in the materials provided to students were documents and worksheets that included a checklist entitled, “Sex Check! Are You Ready For Sex?” in which the 13 and 14-year-old students are asked questions such as if they have water–based lubricants and condoms and if they could handle a possible infection or pregnancy. Another worksheet reads like a how-to on obtaining consent from a possible sexual partner and offers possible statements like “Do you want to go back to my place?” and “Is it OK if I take my pants off?”

They were also taught about gender identity with the “Genderbread Person,” a play on the name of the holiday cookie, to teach them on how to identify themselves as either, “agender,” “bigender,” and “two spirit” to name a few.

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Have you ever seen something so ridiculous?! How many students think they are “non-gendered” or are attracted to “nobody”?! When you go to the doctor, you check off “male” or “female” on a health form. Why would Planned Parenthood want to confuse students? Because this is another way for them to make money. If they can get students to try sex with whomever, then they can make more money on testing them for Sexually Transmitted Infections/Diseases and also on birth control and abortions. Planned Parenthood does not care about our children’s emotional and mental well-being, let alone protecting them from physical illness and bad health. Students at the high school were also given worksheets called a “Sex Check”  and “Making Consent Clear“! You will have to see them to believe the audacity of Planned Parenthood! See the rest of the article here: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2014/12/14/parents-angry-after-school-tells-13-year-olds-can-have-sex-choose-gender/

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LA Law Makers want Children indoctrinated into Comprehensive Sex Ed (that is truly not comprehensive)

 

Math, reading, writing, history, and science are among the subjects most people would agree should be included in a public school curriculum. Now Louisiana State Representative Patricia Smith wants to add sex to the list. Representative Smith claims that failure to provide comprehensive sex education in schools is akin to child abuse. In order to remedy this, she is sponsoring House Bill 369 which will require every public and charter school in Louisiana to provide comprehensive “age appropriate” sex education beginning in elementary school. The stated goal is to reduce the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases as well as the number of teen pregnancies.

Both Louisiana Governor Bobby Jindal and the Louisiana Conference of Catholic Bishops have come out strongly opposed to this legislation, and with good reason. It is one thing to teach basic biological facts. The proposed legislation moves beyond basic science and requires that public education address sexual relationships, gender identity, and family life. These are topics that belong in the home where parents can offer guidance in accordance with their moral and religious principles. When the school presents these topics it offers an endorsement to many behaviors and choices that Catholics find morally objectionable.

Kids in ClassroomThis legislation usurps a parent’s right to decide what information about human sexuality their children will receive and when they will receive it. The proposed legislation defines “age appropriate” as “topics, messages, and teaching methods suitable to particular ages or age groups of children and adolescents, based on developing cognitive, emotional, and behavioral capacity typical for the age or age group.” The decision about what is “age appropriate” is ceded to school administrators with no input from parents.

This approach mirrors that of a 2012 special report, “National Sexuality Education Standards,” published in the Journal of School Health. The committee that produced this report included representatives from Planned Parenthood, and recommended that between kindergarten and second grade, children should be educated about the unreasonable gender specific behaviors that are being imposed upon them by their parents.

By the end of second grade, these experts expect your children to be comfortable with all permutations of families, including same-sex parents. By fifth grade, your child should be able to define the various sexual orientations and see all possibilities as normal and healthy. By the end of high school, your son or daughter should be able to list all the advantages of the various methods of contraception. Again, Representative Smith’s proposed legislation is in line with these recommendations as it specifically states that the mandated curriculum will teach “proper use of contraceptives approved by the federal Food and Drug Administration to prevent unintended pregnancy and of barrier methods approved by the United States Food and Drug Administration to prevent sexually transmitted infections.”

As evidence mounts about the harmful effects of hormonal contraceptives, does Representative Smith really think it is a good idea to encourage their use among teens who are most susceptible to their side effects? Will the mandated sex education curriculum tell students that they double the risk of HIV transmission when they use contraceptives? Will young women hear that they may double their risk of the most aggressive form of breast cancer when they take hormonal contraceptives and this increased risk is greater the younger they are when they start using contraceptives? Will they be told that the latest guidelines from the American Heart Association on stroke prevention in women point to oral contraceptives as a major risk factor?

Rather than making young women healthier, hormonal contraceptives increase the incidence of serious sexually transmitted diseases, cardiovascular disease, and cancer.

Louisiana House Bill 369 does offer a nod to the concerns of the Catholic Bishops by declaring that no lessons will endorse or advocate for abortion. Sexual abstinence will also be presented as an option. However, it will be just that, an option. Sexual promiscuity will also be an option. Homosexuality will be an option. Transgenderism will be an option. Nothing will be labeled as right or wrong. Everything will just be one of many options. The proposed mandated sex education in the public schools will be the equivalent of a multi-year indoctrination in moral relativism.

Under the proposed legislation, parents will be able to opt their children out of these lessons if they object to the program. However, they will only know the contents of the lessons if they request to review the material. There is no requirement to inform all parents of the specific information that will be included in the sex education classes. Why should supporters of this legislation be reluctant to publicize the details of the sex education curriculum if it contains nothing the average parent would find objectionable?

There is a great deal that could and should be taught in public schools about human development. They should learn that human life begins at conception when the ovum and the sperm fuse. They should be taught that this distinct human life develops under the direction of his own unique DNA, not his mother’s. This is settled science. This is the role of public schools as institutions of the state.

On the other hand, education about human sexuality and the nuances of human relations are best left to parents. Through the conversations and events of family life, parents are best positioned to transmit the lessons of virtue and chastity that lead to a healthy understanding of human sexuality.

see the article here:  http://www.truthandcharityforum.org/children-indoctrinated-in-moral-relativism-unhealthy-understanding-of-sexuality-under-louisiana-legislation/

We agree wholeheartedly with Dr. Runnell! We can only hope and pray that the residents of Louisiana will rise up against legislation that seeks to harm and destroy our children by speaking up and supporting Sexual Risk Avoidance. Sign up for more information and stay in the loop on this hot button topic!

Advice for Parents of Teen Porn Addicts (Part 4) Preventing Future Use

Restoring your teen after porn use

by Rob Jackson
Principles, not personalities

Chances are this encounter will exacerbate personality differences already evident in the family, but parents and teen alike need to understand that this issue is not about personalities but about principles. Ideally, parents will have educated their children about the principles or core values that pertain to personal integrity. When these principles are violated, parents don’t need to make this a personal issue, even though the wound will be highly personal.

Those who have not undertaken this core training will experience greater difficulty reaching the teen. Compounding the problem will be any moral lapse or habits that the teen witnesses in the parents’ lives. It is extremely difficult to admonish a child for seeking out pornography if the parents have a few video cassettes they claim to be marital aids. Children are experts at sniffing out hypocrisy.

If parents are morally compromised in this situation, there are only a few choices they can make. They can either let the matter drop, thus resigning their teen to a cycle of pain, shame and addiction, or they can make the decision to eliminate those harmful aspects of their own lives and work toward bringing healing and restoration to the entire family.

Youth culture often counters parental values; adolescents may claim the right to express sexuality in whatever ways they desire. Without moral absolutes, they are prone to experimentation and believe that being true to one’s self is the greater good.

Boundaries and accountability

The fact remains that parents are responsible to a large degree for their children and for what their children do. For example, when an adolescent violates one or more civil laws pertaining to sexual conduct, his parents will typically become involved in the court hearings as well. Taking up their moral responsibility, parents of teenage addicts will need to state clear boundaries so that the guidelines and consequences are obvious.

Sadly, simply stating clear moral guidelines won’t change the heart of our children. Nevertheless, parents should be clear. Adolescents are to be accountable for their conduct, especially when trust has been violated.

Some initial guidelines for children would involve the types of media they are exposed to and the times and places of exposure. For example, parents would want to regulate Internet usage to specific times of the day or only when they are present. They may need specialized software to help them achieve these measures. Other restrictions could include limiting Internet use for homework purposes only and limiting TV viewing.

Heavy-handedness without appropriate ongoing communication and relationship can drive a teen further away from you and drive a continuation of his or her acting out.

The guidelines parents set should not be limited to media in the home. Considering the seriousness of your child’s problem, guidelines should also be developed for conduct outside the household, with a signed agreement clearly stating consequences for infractions.

The reader can see how this could easily become a case of “parenting with an iron fist.” These measures need to be moderated by your family’s situation and your unique relationships. Above all, you must enter into these measures making sure that you are acting out of love and a motivation to help your child toward healing. Just as important, your child must perceive that you are acting with such a motivation. Heavy-handedness without appropriate ongoing communication and relationship can drive a teen further away from you and drive a continuation of his or her acting out.

Ideally, fathers should discuss these matters with sons, and mothers with daughters. Follow-up is important and, at least initially, these times of accountability may need to occur daily so that the teenage addict can check-in.

Safeguard other children

The most difficult question that can emerge is how to safeguard other children in the home. We want to think the best of our loved ones, regardless of age. It’s hard to imagine that a family member may actually pose a hazard to another family member. Where sex addiction exists, however, a careful evaluation for risk factors is always warranted.

Understandably, parents will want to protect younger children from the knowledge that an older sibling is addicted to pornography or other sexual behaviors. In fact, many times, the younger children remain relatively innocent, and perhaps the parents have not yet initiated sex education. Nevertheless, there are times when parents will need to err on the side of caution, and share with younger children that an older sibling is in trouble sexually, and therefore, won’t be left alone in their presence without parental supervision.

Every family situation differs in type and severity. For this reason, it’s not possible to offer specific advice in a brief article. Fortunately, however, help and hope is available though Focus on the Family’s Counseling Department. For a confidential assessment and referral to a specialist, call (800) 232-6459 weekdays 6:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. (Mountain Time).

See the rest  of the article at: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/when_children_use_pornography/preventing_future_use.aspx

When Children View Pornography (Part 1)

1st in a series of 5

By Rob Jackson, Focus on the Family

No healthy parent wants to think about his child viewing pornography, but it often happens. Some researchers have stated that the average age of exposure to pornography is down to 8. Before the days of the Internet, children were typically between the ages of 11 to 13 when they began by viewing soft-core pornography found in magazines like Playboy.

Today’s child lives in a culture where hard-core pornography abounds. Our children are being seduced daily, and we need to bear this fact in mind whenever we have the occasion to redirect them away from pornography.

The goal

We want to be intentional parents. It’s our privilege and responsibility to educate them about sexuality. We want to begin early, and continue throughout their time with us in the home.

The ultimate goal for our children’s sexuality is that they will be able to see the dynamic interplay between sexuality and spirituality. As Christians, we want to help them understand, for example, that sexual intercourse is an act of love shared between a husband and wife. This sacred act symbolizes the spiritual union that will occur between Christ and His bride, the Church, upon His return to earth. We hope our sons will see themselves as a type of Christ as they relate to their wives, and that our daughters will see themselves as a type of the church as they relate to their husbands. What we model today in our marriages will likely reproduce itself in our children’s marriages.

By helping our children to see the big picture about the sanctity of sex, we are better prepared to confront the problem of pornography when and if it occurs in our children’s lives.

Continue reading here: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/when_children_use_pornography.aspx