A Mother’s Warning about Social Media…

August 26, 2013 by

Last week I received a very disturbing and heartbreaking email message from a mother who follows my blog. She asked me to share her email message with my readers so they will never experience what her family has experienced.

 

Her letter:

 

Hello Jackie, I have been reading your articles for a while and sharing them with my daughter; and we enjoy them. Jackie, last Thursday my daughter was raped by a guy she met on Instagram.

My daughter’s father and I are divorced. I found out that he went behind my back and allowed our daughter to date this man. He thought it was okay because he was ‘supervising’ them at his house. I can’t tell you the rage I felt and how many tears I have cried. Unfortunately my ex-husband sacrificed our daughter’s well-being by trying to be our daughter’s friend instead of her father and protector.  

My talking to my daughter wasn’t what she wanted to hear. She wanted her dad’s validation and approval. My daughter knew I would never approve of this guy, but since her dad trusted him she believed the guy when he said, “I won’t ‘try you’ if you let me come over while your family is not home.”

This man was not 18 years old as he told her father he was. By the way, I wouldn’t have even allowed her to date someone who was 18 years old. He also gave my daughter and her father a fake name.

My ex-husband had the nerve to ask our daughter, “At what point didn’t you think you should have fought back?” I could have screamed! I kept calm in front of my daughter and told my ex-husband what the police told me, which was we are blessed our daughter wasn’t found dead or beat beyond recognition because that is how they are finding many girls who are meeting guys on social media sites.

Jackie, my daughter is in counseling/therapy.  I know it’s only by God’s grace and mercy this man didn’t kill my daughter. She just turned 16 years old. He stole her innocence.  I pray they find this guy, but please tell your readers to be very careful about social media and about trusting the wrong people. Sincerely, one hurt mother

When I read this letter I tried, unsuccessfully, to fight back tears. The email message brought back memories of the hundreds of letters I have read from students who have also been raped. At least in this young lady’s situation, the parents found out about the rape and secured counseling for their daughter. Most of the young ladies I receive letters from never attend counseling, resulting in far too many of them managing their pain by self-medicating.

5 Things Parents Can Learn From This Story:

Below are five things I thought would be beneficial for parents to keep in mind with their children:

1.  Parents should be very vigilant in monitoring the social media sites their children visit because social media sites are a predator’s paradise. Check out this online resource to help your child understand the dangers of developing a relationship with someone online.

2.  Young ladies often look to their fathers to set the standard when they are choosing their boyfriends. They will often choose a boyfriend who is like their father or a boyfriend who their father will approve of them dating. Choosing whom they will enter into a relationship with is one of the most significant decisions a young lady will make. Fathers MUST understand how influential they are in that decision. As I stated in a previous post, daughters really do need their dads!

3.  Children’s brains do not fully develop until they are in their twenties. It is imperative that parents protect their children from dangerous situations, even when their children do not recognize the danger. Based on the stage of the daughter’s brain development, I can understand how she may not have understood the danger in dating someone she met online. It is unfathomable to me that the father did not recognize that danger. For more information on the teen brain development, check out this Parent’s Guide to the Teen Brain.

4.  As a parent, you have a responsibility to perform your parental role for your teen(s). The time will come when you can be your children’s friend. During the teen years, they need parents not friends.

5.  When a person is raped, blame should never be placed on the victim for not doing enough to avoid the rape. You can learn more about protecting your child from sexual assault here.

This is one of the posts that you should definitely share with your teens to help them better understand the dangers of social media.

I cannot imagine having to face the pain that this mother and her daughter have experienced. I spoke with the mother last week and she and her daughter are on the road to healing from this horrible experience. Please pray for their continued healing.

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Worst child sex abuse scandal in American history occurring inside abortion and Planned Parenthood facilities.

Worst child sex abuse scandal in American history occurring inside abortion and Planned Parenthood facilities.

Life Dynamics targets the Pedophile Protection Racket with outreach to personal injury attorneys.

Life Dynamics, Inc., located in Denton, Texas, has unveiled their national outreach to end the protection of child sexual predators inside American family planning and abortion clinics.

After more than 12-years of research, Life Dynamics, has documented that mandatory reporting statutes which require healthcare workers to report reasonable suspicions of child sexual abuse to the authorities are being ignored inside American abortion, Planned Parenthood and family planning centers.

According to Mark Crutcher, founder of Life Dynamics , “The abortion lobby is engaged in a pedophile protection racket and protecting pedophiles who rape underage girls. These abortion clinics receive money from the federal government. We are literally paying for the rape of our young daughters.”

Life Dynamics studied this issue by analyzing several hundred instances in which older men were convicted of sexual crimes against minor girls.  In an alarming number of these cases, there was a point at which the victims were taken for birth control, pregnancy tests, STD treatments and abortions – usually by the perpetrator – with no mandatory reporting made by those who provided the service.  In almost every case, the sexual abuse resumed afterward and, many times, it would go on for

You have to remember what’s happening right there,” Crutcher said. “You have an adult in a state talking to what they perceived to be a 13-year-old child who was a victim of sexual abuse by an older man and telling that child to lie about his age in order to conceal the crime. If you’re a parent, especially if a father and you’re not outraged then you don’t have a pulse.

To test this further, Life Dynamics conducted  an undercover investigation in which we called over 800 Planned Parenthood and National Abortion Federation facilities across the nation. The results of this survey were appalling. Even though many of these clinics openly acknowledged to our caller that this situation was illegal and they were required to report it to the state, the overwhelming majority readily agreed to conceal this illegal activity.

When we began to investigate we found it was even worse than we thought it was. Initially we thought perhaps the abortion clinics were only reporting half of the incidents, but instead we found that they were reporting hardly any of them,” said

To address the problem, Life Dynamics, Inc. has contacted over 53,000 personal injury attorneys to educate them about the pedophile protection racket being covered up inside these

The DVD released to the legal community, begins, “ You are going to learn about an area of personal injury litigation that is enormous and growing daily.  Make no mistake, what you are about to see could literally revolutionize your practice.  It could also put you on the cutting edge of solving one of our nation’s most troubling – but most hidden – social problems.”

Crutcher explains,  “Three things we point out in the DVD are that abortion, dissemination of birth control or treatment for STDs are all indications of sexual activity and when they are indicated, on its face that is evidence of child abuse and must be reported.

Of those three activities, the smallest number is going to be abortions while the largest number is birth control. If you just look at abortion, which is the smallest number of the three, there are nearly 3,500 abortions done in America every single day. The abortion industry and government figures show 25 percent to 40 percent of abortions are done on minor girls. This is potentially of thousands of victims every single day just from abortions.

The response to the DVD has been tremendous so

In fact, many of the attorneys Life Dynamics contacted see the value in pursuing litigation against those who violate mandatory reporting laws.

This is an outrage and what is going on here is absolute and utter scandal. If you simply look at the numbers on these things this is the largest criminal conspiracy in American history, ” Crutcher stated,  “The phones are ringing off the hook.

A Recent news article on the project describes the effort this way: “In what has been called the worst child sex abuse scandal in American history, the abortion industry could soon find itself beleaguered by multiple lawsuits from trial lawyers representing hundreds of thousands of victims of statutory rape.

Another media report reads, “Life Dynamics is alerting attorneys that Planned Parenthood and other abortion providers might be ripe for civil lawsuits.

About Life Dynamics: http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_

Mark Crutcher’s Bio http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Prolife_

2002 Child Predator Investigation http://www.childpredator.

Articles:

Lawyers eyeing liability of abortion providers who don’t call police http://www.wnd.com/2013/04/why-are-rape-charges-missing-in-child-sex-abuse-

Civil suits could take down abortion industry overnight – http://www.onenewsnow.com/latest-headlines-from-american-family-news/2013/03/13/civil-suits-could-take-down-abortion-industry-overnight#sthash.8p0C5OpO.dpuf