Parents angry after school tells 13-year-olds they can have sex, choose gender

by Christine Kalmbach

9th grade students at a California high school are being taught sex education by Planned Parenthood unbeknownst to parents! Planned Parenthood’s devious, back-door methods to get to our children shows up this time at Acalanes High School.

See more on this article from Perry Chiaramonte at Fox News:

Students at one northern California high school are learning more than just the birds and the bees.

Along with local area groups, some parents are irate that their children’s sex ed class at Acalanes High School in Lafayette is being taught by employees of Planned Parenthood without their prior knowledge. They are also fuming over the methods and materials being used, including a checklist that asks students if they are “ready for sex” and another worksheet that describes how to give and obtain consent, as well as a diagram that uses a “genderbread” person for lessons in gender identity.

“[Parents] are very concerned,” Brad Dacus, president of the Pacific Justice Institute, a non-profit legal organization that is assisting the concerned parents, told FoxNews.com. “Planned Parenthood is not exactly the best when it comes to putting young people first.

“They get more grants from the promiscuity of children,” he added. “The material they have provided was material that mirrored their agenda.”

It was the parents of ninth-graders at Acalanes that started raising questions after their children told them one instructor threw a model of female reproductive organs at one student and that many felt the sessions were pressuring them to have sex.

“Some of the kids were distracted because it was divergent from what they were taught at home,” Dacus said.

Acalanes Union School District officials told the institute the class was not taught by teachers but rather the staff from a local Planned Parenthood in nearby Walnut Creek.

Included in the materials provided to students were documents and worksheets that included a checklist entitled, “Sex Check! Are You Ready For Sex?” in which the 13 and 14-year-old students are asked questions such as if they have water–based lubricants and condoms and if they could handle a possible infection or pregnancy. Another worksheet reads like a how-to on obtaining consent from a possible sexual partner and offers possible statements like “Do you want to go back to my place?” and “Is it OK if I take my pants off?”

They were also taught about gender identity with the “Genderbread Person,” a play on the name of the holiday cookie, to teach them on how to identify themselves as either, “agender,” “bigender,” and “two spirit” to name a few.

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Have you ever seen something so ridiculous?! How many students think they are “non-gendered” or are attracted to “nobody”?! When you go to the doctor, you check off “male” or “female” on a health form. Why would Planned Parenthood want to confuse students? Because this is another way for them to make money. If they can get students to try sex with whomever, then they can make more money on testing them for Sexually Transmitted Infections/Diseases and also on birth control and abortions. Planned Parenthood does not care about our children’s emotional and mental well-being, let alone protecting them from physical illness and bad health. Students at the high school were also given worksheets called a “Sex Check”  and “Making Consent Clear“! You will have to see them to believe the audacity of Planned Parenthood! See the rest of the article here: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2014/12/14/parents-angry-after-school-tells-13-year-olds-can-have-sex-choose-gender/

LA Law Makers want Children indoctrinated into Comprehensive Sex Ed (that is truly not comprehensive)

 

Math, reading, writing, history, and science are among the subjects most people would agree should be included in a public school curriculum. Now Louisiana State Representative Patricia Smith wants to add sex to the list. Representative Smith claims that failure to provide comprehensive sex education in schools is akin to child abuse. In order to remedy this, she is sponsoring House Bill 369 which will require every public and charter school in Louisiana to provide comprehensive “age appropriate” sex education beginning in elementary school. The stated goal is to reduce the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases as well as the number of teen pregnancies.

Both Louisiana Governor Bobby Jindal and the Louisiana Conference of Catholic Bishops have come out strongly opposed to this legislation, and with good reason. It is one thing to teach basic biological facts. The proposed legislation moves beyond basic science and requires that public education address sexual relationships, gender identity, and family life. These are topics that belong in the home where parents can offer guidance in accordance with their moral and religious principles. When the school presents these topics it offers an endorsement to many behaviors and choices that Catholics find morally objectionable.

Kids in ClassroomThis legislation usurps a parent’s right to decide what information about human sexuality their children will receive and when they will receive it. The proposed legislation defines “age appropriate” as “topics, messages, and teaching methods suitable to particular ages or age groups of children and adolescents, based on developing cognitive, emotional, and behavioral capacity typical for the age or age group.” The decision about what is “age appropriate” is ceded to school administrators with no input from parents.

This approach mirrors that of a 2012 special report, “National Sexuality Education Standards,” published in the Journal of School Health. The committee that produced this report included representatives from Planned Parenthood, and recommended that between kindergarten and second grade, children should be educated about the unreasonable gender specific behaviors that are being imposed upon them by their parents.

By the end of second grade, these experts expect your children to be comfortable with all permutations of families, including same-sex parents. By fifth grade, your child should be able to define the various sexual orientations and see all possibilities as normal and healthy. By the end of high school, your son or daughter should be able to list all the advantages of the various methods of contraception. Again, Representative Smith’s proposed legislation is in line with these recommendations as it specifically states that the mandated curriculum will teach “proper use of contraceptives approved by the federal Food and Drug Administration to prevent unintended pregnancy and of barrier methods approved by the United States Food and Drug Administration to prevent sexually transmitted infections.”

As evidence mounts about the harmful effects of hormonal contraceptives, does Representative Smith really think it is a good idea to encourage their use among teens who are most susceptible to their side effects? Will the mandated sex education curriculum tell students that they double the risk of HIV transmission when they use contraceptives? Will young women hear that they may double their risk of the most aggressive form of breast cancer when they take hormonal contraceptives and this increased risk is greater the younger they are when they start using contraceptives? Will they be told that the latest guidelines from the American Heart Association on stroke prevention in women point to oral contraceptives as a major risk factor?

Rather than making young women healthier, hormonal contraceptives increase the incidence of serious sexually transmitted diseases, cardiovascular disease, and cancer.

Louisiana House Bill 369 does offer a nod to the concerns of the Catholic Bishops by declaring that no lessons will endorse or advocate for abortion. Sexual abstinence will also be presented as an option. However, it will be just that, an option. Sexual promiscuity will also be an option. Homosexuality will be an option. Transgenderism will be an option. Nothing will be labeled as right or wrong. Everything will just be one of many options. The proposed mandated sex education in the public schools will be the equivalent of a multi-year indoctrination in moral relativism.

Under the proposed legislation, parents will be able to opt their children out of these lessons if they object to the program. However, they will only know the contents of the lessons if they request to review the material. There is no requirement to inform all parents of the specific information that will be included in the sex education classes. Why should supporters of this legislation be reluctant to publicize the details of the sex education curriculum if it contains nothing the average parent would find objectionable?

There is a great deal that could and should be taught in public schools about human development. They should learn that human life begins at conception when the ovum and the sperm fuse. They should be taught that this distinct human life develops under the direction of his own unique DNA, not his mother’s. This is settled science. This is the role of public schools as institutions of the state.

On the other hand, education about human sexuality and the nuances of human relations are best left to parents. Through the conversations and events of family life, parents are best positioned to transmit the lessons of virtue and chastity that lead to a healthy understanding of human sexuality.

see the article here:  http://www.truthandcharityforum.org/children-indoctrinated-in-moral-relativism-unhealthy-understanding-of-sexuality-under-louisiana-legislation/

We agree wholeheartedly with Dr. Runnell! We can only hope and pray that the residents of Louisiana will rise up against legislation that seeks to harm and destroy our children by speaking up and supporting Sexual Risk Avoidance. Sign up for more information and stay in the loop on this hot button topic!

Friends without Benefits? Really?!

by Christine Kalmbach

In a September Vanity Fair Article, Friends Without Benefits by Nancy Jo Sales, it talks about the effect of social media and the effect of pornography, sexting and hook-up apps that and how it is harming teens. Here is an excerpt from the article:

Friends Without Benefits by Nancy Jo Sales

This year, 81 percent of Internet-using teenagers in America reported that they are active on social-networking sites, more than ever before. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, ((Snapchat, Skype, Tumblr, Vine, Ask.fm)) and new dating apps like Tinder, Grindr, and Blendr have increasingly become key players in social interactions, both online and IRL (in real life). (I added some of these ((applications in parentheses)) because many parents may not even be aware of them!) Combined with unprecedented easy access to the unreal world of Internet porn, the result is a situation that has drastically affected gender roles for young people. Speaking to a variety of teenaged boys and girls across the country, Nancy Jo Sales uncovers a world where boys are taught they have the right to expect everything from social submission to outright sex from their female peers. What is this doing to America’s young women?

Another excerpt talks about the stats of porn:

Porn is more available now than at any time in history—especially to kids. Ninety-three percent of boys and 62 percent of girls have seen Internet porn before they turn 18, according to a 2008 study in CyberPsychology & Behavior. Seventy percent of boys have spent more than 30 minutes looking at porn, as have 23 percent of girls. Eighty-three percent of boys and 57 percent of girls have seen group sex online. Eighteen percent of boys and 10 percent of girls have seen rape or sexual violence.

The article is rough, read at your discretion with its seedy language, vile sex acts and emotionally and spiritually scarring stories.

The irony to this chilling and sickening article is the fact that Vanity Fair has featured it! The magazine that brings you naked women every month, airbrushed and tanned to perfection selling lies to make girls and women think that that is how they are supposed to look!  This is the Vanity Fair that features articles with lurid sexual details, seductive poses, innuendo, pedophiles interviews, and nude photographs ad nauseum.

Vanity Fair actually cares about young women getting hooked on casual sex?

Vanity Fair actually cares about young women being lied to and being used?

Sure seems hard to believe given the monthly content of their rag.  Maybe Vanity Fair needs to read this article and rethink the way they’ve been doing business? Maybe they care about children being used and abused? Maybe they care and will start setting a standard to not push sexuality on young children and teens. The message that has been promoted is warped for sure.

Hey, Vanity Fair, it’s about time you practiced what you are preaching? Vanity Fair…are you listening?

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Advice for Parents of Teen Porn Addicts (Part 4) Preventing Future Use

Restoring your teen after porn use

by Rob Jackson
Principles, not personalities

Chances are this encounter will exacerbate personality differences already evident in the family, but parents and teen alike need to understand that this issue is not about personalities but about principles. Ideally, parents will have educated their children about the principles or core values that pertain to personal integrity. When these principles are violated, parents don’t need to make this a personal issue, even though the wound will be highly personal.

Those who have not undertaken this core training will experience greater difficulty reaching the teen. Compounding the problem will be any moral lapse or habits that the teen witnesses in the parents’ lives. It is extremely difficult to admonish a child for seeking out pornography if the parents have a few video cassettes they claim to be marital aids. Children are experts at sniffing out hypocrisy.

If parents are morally compromised in this situation, there are only a few choices they can make. They can either let the matter drop, thus resigning their teen to a cycle of pain, shame and addiction, or they can make the decision to eliminate those harmful aspects of their own lives and work toward bringing healing and restoration to the entire family.

Youth culture often counters parental values; adolescents may claim the right to express sexuality in whatever ways they desire. Without moral absolutes, they are prone to experimentation and believe that being true to one’s self is the greater good.

Boundaries and accountability

The fact remains that parents are responsible to a large degree for their children and for what their children do. For example, when an adolescent violates one or more civil laws pertaining to sexual conduct, his parents will typically become involved in the court hearings as well. Taking up their moral responsibility, parents of teenage addicts will need to state clear boundaries so that the guidelines and consequences are obvious.

Sadly, simply stating clear moral guidelines won’t change the heart of our children. Nevertheless, parents should be clear. Adolescents are to be accountable for their conduct, especially when trust has been violated.

Some initial guidelines for children would involve the types of media they are exposed to and the times and places of exposure. For example, parents would want to regulate Internet usage to specific times of the day or only when they are present. They may need specialized software to help them achieve these measures. Other restrictions could include limiting Internet use for homework purposes only and limiting TV viewing.

Heavy-handedness without appropriate ongoing communication and relationship can drive a teen further away from you and drive a continuation of his or her acting out.

The guidelines parents set should not be limited to media in the home. Considering the seriousness of your child’s problem, guidelines should also be developed for conduct outside the household, with a signed agreement clearly stating consequences for infractions.

The reader can see how this could easily become a case of “parenting with an iron fist.” These measures need to be moderated by your family’s situation and your unique relationships. Above all, you must enter into these measures making sure that you are acting out of love and a motivation to help your child toward healing. Just as important, your child must perceive that you are acting with such a motivation. Heavy-handedness without appropriate ongoing communication and relationship can drive a teen further away from you and drive a continuation of his or her acting out.

Ideally, fathers should discuss these matters with sons, and mothers with daughters. Follow-up is important and, at least initially, these times of accountability may need to occur daily so that the teenage addict can check-in.

Safeguard other children

The most difficult question that can emerge is how to safeguard other children in the home. We want to think the best of our loved ones, regardless of age. It’s hard to imagine that a family member may actually pose a hazard to another family member. Where sex addiction exists, however, a careful evaluation for risk factors is always warranted.

Understandably, parents will want to protect younger children from the knowledge that an older sibling is addicted to pornography or other sexual behaviors. In fact, many times, the younger children remain relatively innocent, and perhaps the parents have not yet initiated sex education. Nevertheless, there are times when parents will need to err on the side of caution, and share with younger children that an older sibling is in trouble sexually, and therefore, won’t be left alone in their presence without parental supervision.

Every family situation differs in type and severity. For this reason, it’s not possible to offer specific advice in a brief article. Fortunately, however, help and hope is available though Focus on the Family’s Counseling Department. For a confidential assessment and referral to a specialist, call (800) 232-6459 weekdays 6:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. (Mountain Time).

See the rest  of the article at: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/when_children_use_pornography/preventing_future_use.aspx

A Mother’s Warning about Social Media…

August 26, 2013 by

Last week I received a very disturbing and heartbreaking email message from a mother who follows my blog. She asked me to share her email message with my readers so they will never experience what her family has experienced.

 

Her letter:

 

Hello Jackie, I have been reading your articles for a while and sharing them with my daughter; and we enjoy them. Jackie, last Thursday my daughter was raped by a guy she met on Instagram.

My daughter’s father and I are divorced. I found out that he went behind my back and allowed our daughter to date this man. He thought it was okay because he was ‘supervising’ them at his house. I can’t tell you the rage I felt and how many tears I have cried. Unfortunately my ex-husband sacrificed our daughter’s well-being by trying to be our daughter’s friend instead of her father and protector.  

My talking to my daughter wasn’t what she wanted to hear. She wanted her dad’s validation and approval. My daughter knew I would never approve of this guy, but since her dad trusted him she believed the guy when he said, “I won’t ‘try you’ if you let me come over while your family is not home.”

This man was not 18 years old as he told her father he was. By the way, I wouldn’t have even allowed her to date someone who was 18 years old. He also gave my daughter and her father a fake name.

My ex-husband had the nerve to ask our daughter, “At what point didn’t you think you should have fought back?” I could have screamed! I kept calm in front of my daughter and told my ex-husband what the police told me, which was we are blessed our daughter wasn’t found dead or beat beyond recognition because that is how they are finding many girls who are meeting guys on social media sites.

Jackie, my daughter is in counseling/therapy.  I know it’s only by God’s grace and mercy this man didn’t kill my daughter. She just turned 16 years old. He stole her innocence.  I pray they find this guy, but please tell your readers to be very careful about social media and about trusting the wrong people. Sincerely, one hurt mother

When I read this letter I tried, unsuccessfully, to fight back tears. The email message brought back memories of the hundreds of letters I have read from students who have also been raped. At least in this young lady’s situation, the parents found out about the rape and secured counseling for their daughter. Most of the young ladies I receive letters from never attend counseling, resulting in far too many of them managing their pain by self-medicating.

5 Things Parents Can Learn From This Story:

Below are five things I thought would be beneficial for parents to keep in mind with their children:

1.  Parents should be very vigilant in monitoring the social media sites their children visit because social media sites are a predator’s paradise. Check out this online resource to help your child understand the dangers of developing a relationship with someone online.

2.  Young ladies often look to their fathers to set the standard when they are choosing their boyfriends. They will often choose a boyfriend who is like their father or a boyfriend who their father will approve of them dating. Choosing whom they will enter into a relationship with is one of the most significant decisions a young lady will make. Fathers MUST understand how influential they are in that decision. As I stated in a previous post, daughters really do need their dads!

3.  Children’s brains do not fully develop until they are in their twenties. It is imperative that parents protect their children from dangerous situations, even when their children do not recognize the danger. Based on the stage of the daughter’s brain development, I can understand how she may not have understood the danger in dating someone she met online. It is unfathomable to me that the father did not recognize that danger. For more information on the teen brain development, check out this Parent’s Guide to the Teen Brain.

4.  As a parent, you have a responsibility to perform your parental role for your teen(s). The time will come when you can be your children’s friend. During the teen years, they need parents not friends.

5.  When a person is raped, blame should never be placed on the victim for not doing enough to avoid the rape. You can learn more about protecting your child from sexual assault here.

This is one of the posts that you should definitely share with your teens to help them better understand the dangers of social media.

I cannot imagine having to face the pain that this mother and her daughter have experienced. I spoke with the mother last week and she and her daughter are on the road to healing from this horrible experience. Please pray for their continued healing.

http://jackiebrewtonblog.com/a-mothers-warning-about-social-media/?utm_source=A+Mother%27s+Warning+about+Social+Media…&utm_campaign=A+Mother%27s+Warning+about+Social+Media&utm_medium=email

HB2 & SB1…”My Sex Organs”…

By Christine Kalmbach

Some may have heard about Katie Heim, an Austinite, who read her testimony -a poem to the Texas State legislators.  The poem, a slant on the gun issue in which she compares her vagina to a gun.

“If my vagina was a gun, you would stand for its rights,
You would ride on buses and fight all the fights.
If my vagina was a gun, you would treat it with care,
You wouldn’t spill all its secrets because, well, why go there.
If my vaginas was a gun, you’d say what it holds is private
From cold dead hands we could pry, you surely would riot.
If my vagina was a gun, its rights would all be protected,
no matter the body count or the children affected.
If my vagina was a gun, I could bypass security,
concealed carry laws would ensure I’d have impunity.
If my vagina was a gun, I wouldn’t have to beg you,
I could hunt this great land and do all the things men do.
But my vagina is not a gun, it is a mightier thing,
With a voice that rings true making lawmakers’ ears ring.
Vaginas are not delicate, they are muscular and magic,
So stop messing with mine, with legislation that’s tragic.
My vagina’s here to demand from the source,
Listen to the voices of thousands or feel their full force.”

You can read the article here: http://www.lifenews.com/2013/07/09/abortion-activist-reads-sick-poem-to-texas-panel-if-my-vagina-was-a-gun/

So, I thought, I would write a poem based on the consequences of premarital sex and abortion and the choice of choosing life!

“My Sex Organs” by Christine Kalmbach

If “my sex organs” were the most important thing,
what a delusion in my mind that would bring!
If “my sex organs” were the only thing that mattered,
how sad that my body and life would be so shattered!
If “my sex organs” were only for my pleasure,
then whatever my love wants, I would never treasure!
If “my sex organs” were only used for my desires,
then I could use others, hurt them and be a liar!
If “my sex organs” were to be used by others,
there’s no love, no joy, only abuse that smothers.
If “my sex organs” have a right over others to kill,
then life is snuffed out ‘cause I just took a pill!
If “my sex organs” were used whenever and wherever outside of marriage,
premarital sex gives lies, broken hearts and the hurt is a huge miscarriage!
If “my sex organs” held a secret, even at first, from me,
what if I aborted my daughter, who could have helped heal me?
If “my sex organs” were only MY right,
then I could murder and exterminate a life without any fight!

If “my sex organs” were seen as holy and sacred,
women and girls wouldn’t spew lies and hatred.
If “my sex organs” weren’t used by movies and TV,
then people wouldn’t be acting out in promiscuity!
If “my sex organs” were for the honor of Christ,
I would live a life of no regrets, for He paid the ultimate price!
If “my sex organs” were given respect and honor,
then my man would always love me and never be a goner.
If “my sex organs” were saved and protected for love,
there would be no disease and no need for a glove!
If “my sex organs” were meant to create life,
then one day I could have a husband, be a mom and a wife!
If “my sex organs” were to give me and my husband pleasure,
the total joy and bonding I could never fully measure!
If “my sex organs” were to one day to create a family,
then baby on the way would make us 3!
If “my sex organs” were uniquely created just for me,
I would be a treasured and precious gift of Thee!

We hear that abortion should be “safe, legal and rare”, however, in reality pro-death supporters want abortion on demand, “anytime, any place and paid by you-the American taxpayer”.   Planned Parenthood has paid supporters to come in and protest at the State Capitol. Texas HB2 and SB1 will ensure that abortion clinics are held to the highest standards, doctors will be trained and accountable and that no infant over 20 weeks can be killed or exterminated like a roach.  The pro-death supporters are all about women’s rights but they don’t recognize the right to life for everyone.  When did women become so out of touch with their maternal instinct and the desire to protect that life growing inside of them?  Are exceptions made for rape, incest and abnormalities? Yes, but again isn’t life about living and haven’t doctors been wrong in some diagnoses? Why punish a child for something they are completely innocent of?  Every person alive today, had at the very least a pro-life mom!

We strongly encourage parents to educate their children about how God created life and how life is to be respected and honored (and how they are a gift), then abortion will no longer be needed or at the very least be truly “rare”! Please contact your Texas State Senator and let them know you support SB1. They will vote on it on Friday, 7/12/13! http://www.senate.state.tx.us/

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Advice for Parents of Teen Porn Addicts (Part 3)

When faced with their teen’s struggle, most parents don’t know where to begin to get the helps he or she needs.

by Rob Jackson

With the advent of the Internet, parents are finding it increasingly difficult to shield their children from pornography. Now, in addition to the exposure kids might encounter from classmates who borrowed one of their father’s magazines, most school-age children and adolescents are spending large amounts of time online for homework or entertainment reasons. Attorney General John Ashcroft has estimated that nine in ten teens have been exposed to pornography. Unfortunately, many of these teens are susceptible to developing addictions or compulsions to these images.

The term “addict” may seem severe. Most parents will initially minimize the problem, hoping their son or daughter is simply “experimenting.” Experience has taught me that, in many cases, at least one of the parents will have faced similar struggles when he or she was younger. Today, however, Internet pornography is the fast ramp to sex addiction. Coupled with a greater moral decay in the culture and the fact that children’s minds are still are still in the process of developing to maturity, addiction can happen quicker than we parents like to think.

Not long ago, I was a guest on Focus on the Family’s teen call-in radio show Life on the Edge Live! During the hour, several adolescents called in to discuss sexual integrity. Even having previously treated adolescent addicts, I was surprised that the first four callers identified themselves as sex addicts – three of which were females.

My own practice and experiences such as those on the call-in show demonstrate that the problems of teenage pornography and sex addictions are real, devastating, and increasing. When faced with their teen’s struggle, most parents don’t know where to begin to get their child the help he or she needs.

Taking ownership

In many situations, the first reaction is to determine who is to blame within the family. It is important to realize, however, that bad things still happen to good families. This does not absolve certain parties from taking responsibility where it is needed. Everyone needs to take ownership of his or her piece of the puzzle.

For example, parents need to ask if they have provided a comprehensive sex education that truly equipped their child with the winsome truth expounded in the Bible. Setting proper foundations for understanding a Christian sexual ethic is a crucial step in protecting children from later sexual disorder.

Parents will also want to re-evaluate the types and amounts of media they have allowed in the home. People tend to absorb the messages that bombard them in popular media; more so with teens and young children. What have your children been listening to and watching? Is their media reinforcing respectful messages about sexuality and the dignity of the person, or is it working to erode these foundational principles in your child’s mind?

Another often-overlooked problem is the sad reality of sex abuse. Most sex addicts have suffered sexual abuse at some point in their lives, and treatment of sex abuse is foundational to overcoming sex addiction.

Read more here: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/when_children_use_pornography/advice_for_parents_of_teenage_porn_addicts.aspx