When Children View Pornography (Part 1)

1st in a series of 5

By Rob Jackson, Focus on the Family

No healthy parent wants to think about his child viewing pornography, but it often happens. Some researchers have stated that the average age of exposure to pornography is down to 8. Before the days of the Internet, children were typically between the ages of 11 to 13 when they began by viewing soft-core pornography found in magazines like Playboy.

Today’s child lives in a culture where hard-core pornography abounds. Our children are being seduced daily, and we need to bear this fact in mind whenever we have the occasion to redirect them away from pornography.

The goal

We want to be intentional parents. It’s our privilege and responsibility to educate them about sexuality. We want to begin early, and continue throughout their time with us in the home.

The ultimate goal for our children’s sexuality is that they will be able to see the dynamic interplay between sexuality and spirituality. As Christians, we want to help them understand, for example, that sexual intercourse is an act of love shared between a husband and wife. This sacred act symbolizes the spiritual union that will occur between Christ and His bride, the Church, upon His return to earth. We hope our sons will see themselves as a type of Christ as they relate to their wives, and that our daughters will see themselves as a type of the church as they relate to their husbands. What we model today in our marriages will likely reproduce itself in our children’s marriages.

By helping our children to see the big picture about the sanctity of sex, we are better prepared to confront the problem of pornography when and if it occurs in our children’s lives.

Continue reading here: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/when_children_use_pornography.aspx


Texas Parents Unite to Protect Children

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Texas Parents Care



Contact:  Christine Kalmbach                                                                                                                                                                                                    May 7, 2013
832.755.2954                                                                                                                                                                                                    texasparentscare@gmail.com

Texas Parents Unite to Protect Children

Ask legislators to keep abortion providers out of public schools

          Parents are uniting across Texas to protect children from being targets of the abortion industry in public schools. They are calling on legislators to pass legislation that will keep abortion providers and their affiliates out of schools. At least one bill, Senate Bill 521 authored by Senators Donna Campbell, M.D., Ken Paxton, and Eddie Lucio, Jr. does that.

“The nation’s largest abortion provider, Planned Parenthood, benefits from access to youth by being presented as experts and a source for information and health care, and at the same time profiting financially from abortion and birth control sales,” said Christine Kalmbach, a parent who founded Texas Parents Care (TPC).  “Giving Planned Parenthood access to our children in schools allows the use of public education for marketing promiscuity and abortion and for recruiting teens for its programs,” she added.

“Planned Parenthood over-sexualizes children and normalizes risky sexual behavior,” said Jennifer Fleck, a Houston area parent who has extensively investigated sex-ed programs.

“Abortion providers like Planned Parenthood can’t possibly communicate the health standard in Texas law effectively because of its inherent conflict of interest,” said Renate Sims, a Round Rock parent of five children. We don’t hire the Marlboro man to give the “don’t smoke” speech during Red Ribbon week, and we don’t follow up a presentation on the effects of alcohol with a recipe on how to make a Margarita,” she added.

Texas Parents Care objects to abortion providers like Planned Parenthood in schools and the use of its materials because the organization facilitates sex with minors by providing them with condoms and birth control, helps them circumvent parental authority needed to get an abortion, and normalizes even young teen sexual activity.

The parents also object to Planned Parenthood’s sex ed material as inappropriate, degrading, and offensive because its prurient sex advice does the following:

  • Encourages children to use “outercourse” as a method of birth control and as “safer sex.”
  • Encourages using sex toys to “spice up sex play.”
  • Does not uphold the standard of abstinence in Texas law, calling effective, true abstinence programs “fear- and shame-based.
  • Promotes mutual masturbation, cybersex, and phone sex as “no risk safer sex play.”
  • Promotes manual stimulation of one another, body-to-body rubbing, grinding, “dry humping,” oral and anal sex, and playing with sex toys  as “low risk safer sex play.”
  • Says safer sex is “a great way to explore who we are sexually, express our feelings, bond with others, and have a good time.”

Planned Parenthood’s websites and videos feature a condom fashion show, penis and vagina cupcakes, “Bobby Earth” in a condom costume, and teens singing and rolling on colored condoms on the floor.

Like minded parents are encouraged to join the efforts of Texas Parents Cares at texasparentscare.com, SB 521 and samples of sex-ed materials can also be viewed there.

Please join others across Texas who care about Texas children!  Fill out our contact form on this site and join the fight to protect our children!


Safe is Sexy?!?

The video starts out show a young Hispanic female doing street construction work.  She uses a jackhammer, a drill and grinder.  She’s dressed in a coverall, safety glasses and a yellow hard hat.  She looks the part.
The female voiceover says, “My father always told me to use the right tools… for the right job…” the scene fades away and then soft guitar music quietly strums. We see a guy in bed wearing a hard hat in a dark room and with what seems little else… Our young, female construction worker walks through the bedroom door and in the blink of an eye her coverall is stripped away and she is wearing a thin, cotton tank top that says “Safe is Sexy” (and the camera focuses on her breasts jiggling) and a pair of  tight daisy dukes as she makes a beeline for the bed.  She excitedly tosses her hard hat off to the right and jumps into bed under the covers which completely envelop her. You hear subtle, seductive laughing by her and then him. With the biggest grin, he throws the covers over his head and dives in.  A red tool box is what we see next and the bumper sticker “Planning is Power” is affixed to the lid.  We then see the hand of our young woman flipping it open as she reaches in for a condom amongst the sex toys, birth control pills plus many other objects.  She doesn’t reach for the lone condom in the right tray, no, that is definitely not enough as she reaches to the bottom for the condom strip of six! We then see her shape sitting up under the blanket on top of the guy as she coos, “Oooh, nice tool”!  Then the commercial closes with heavy guitar music and tells teens, “Planned Parenthood is your toolbox. For an appointment call 1-800-230-PLAN or visit ppggdotorg”
See the video yourself at:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrLxEYYYPBk

Can you think of one father that would want his sweet baby girl to go to Planned Parenthood so she could have illicit sex with a man or as many men as possible?!  Everyone knows or should know that condoms offer some protection but NOT 100% foolproof protection!  ONLY abstinence offers 100% protection from STI’s and HIV/AIDS! Many STI’s are not protected by condoms because they can be transmitted by contact with the genital area, mouth, throat and even under fingernails where it can be spread through not only vaginal sex but oral/anal sex but even mutual masturbation![1] Oral cancers are on the rise – it turns out that HPV can cause malignant tumors in the throat just like on the cervix.[2] HIV transmission is 20 times higher with anal intercourse than with vaginal intercourse.[3] The excitement and fun of this sex escapade does not indicate if this couple is married and if this is a committed, monogamous relationship.  The message clearly implies, “go ahead have sex and use a condom as a tool”…this commercial does not encourage abstinence, delaying gratification or good decision making nor does it tell about the depression or suicide rates that are higher among sexually active teens[4]! It aired on MTV which is watched by a majority of teens and is Planned Parenthood’s primary target. Parents need to make sure that Planned Parenthood never makes into their child’s toolbox! See texasparentscare.com for more information on the war on our children via “sexual education” starting with children as young as Kindergarten.

When in Doubt, Opt Out

According to the Texas Education Code, parents have the right to know what is being taught in Human Sexuality instruction and to remove their child without consequences.  (See Texas Education Code excerpt at the bottom.)

If the school sends an Opt-Out form home, what do parents do with it?  What thought process goes into whether or not to include a child in the Human Sexuality instruction that has been chosen by the school district?

The current Evaluation criteria that parents use to decide whether or not to Opt-Out their student seems to  include: trust in school district, peer pressure, and apathy.

Trust: The trend seems to be that Parents trust the School Districts to provide appropriate instruction.  A School District may host Parent Forums for the curriculum where parent attendance levels fluctuate sometimes based on the trust level in the district.  Occasionally, a Parent might go to the Library to view the Curriculum in detail.  But in general, Parents seem to trust that the district is providing adequate and age-appropriate instruction.

Peer Pressure: Parents feel especially compelled to not opt-out their children because of Peer Pressure.  Our children do not want to be singled out and parents don’t want to be the responsible party in causing any undue stress on our children.  Somehow after all of these years of teaching our children to withstand peer pressure in other areas such as drugs and alcohol, we give in to the ultimate fear of being different when it comes to communal sex education.

Apathy: Apathy is the strongest power that School Districts have when it comes to our children.  Parents are too busy and too distracted to take the time to really think through whether the instruction is appropriate for our unique children and their individual maturity level.

The Opt-Out Process is full of inefficiencies without any guarantee or comfort for a discerning parent.  The student is supposed to bring home a form in a timely manner.  If a parent decides to Opt-Out their child, the form has to successfully arrive back at the school and the instructor must honor the parent’s request.  The default is that the student receives the instruction.

The Parent’s Opt-Out is too often overruled.  Teachers do not always perform the due diligence to check the forms.  Students are sometimes even given the option to stay in the room even though their parents signed the Opt-Out.  There are no consequences for the teachers or students if the parent said ‘no’ in cases when the school actually delivered the lesson.  The school could just say that they lost the form or that it wasn’t delivered.  There is no accountability in this process.

Students that currently Opt-Out are sometimes given more book work than the students that actually go through the class.  In some cases, instruction is reduced from 10 days to 4 days, but the book work is for the full 10 days.  Most of the work would be considered ‘busy work’ and sometimes includes quiz and test reviews with threats of a quiz or test at the end.  Students not only feel singled out, but they feel like the Opt-Out is a punishment.

The 83rd Texas Legislature is considering an Opt-In process.  In fact, at this time SB 521 still includes the Opt-In.  The default process would be that these students would not receive any Human Sexuality instruction at school.  The assumption is that at-risk students would not return the forms and would not receive any instruction at home.  Sex Educators worry that at-risk students could miss out on a beneficial program due to the irresponsible behavior by the student or the non-participation by the parent.  Declarations that this would shut down Sex Education completely are an exaggeration.

The Opt-In process actually makes a parent stop, read, and think about whether they agree with what is being taught and maybe even do some research.  If a District wants to encourage Parental involvement, the Opt-In process is the strongest indicator of a desired partnership between the District and Parents.  The truth is that Parents sign forms for their children all the time, particularly at elementary and middle school levels.  When a student enrolls in Health class in High School, one parental consent form is reasonable and should be expected.

To make an informed decision, parents should be provided as much information as possible.  Parents should evaluate the Curriculum Material, the Instructor that will be delivering the Material, and the Peer Group that will be present during the Presentation.

Material: The School District is required to make the material available for public inspection.  Many School Districts keep the documentation in the School Library for Parents to review.  Some curricula are available online to review and even more have reviews available.  The Parents should discern the source of the reviews and financial backing of such Material.  Many curricula available are backed by Planned Parenthood.  Is it alarming to parents that an Abortion Provider would be supplying the Human Sexuality material to their children?  What message would this group provide a student?  Is it abstinence based or comprehensive sex education?  The possible questions and research criteria for Parents are another topic altogether.  But Parents should seek to understand as much as possible about the source of the Material.  Each District in the State of Texas should have a School Health Advisory Council that makes recommendations to the Board of Trustees.  Parents can seek out other Parents that are on the Council to understand what Curriculum is taught and how the District determined its appropriateness.

Instructor: Parents need to know and understand who is teaching the material.  Sex Education is Character Education.  If the curriculum is supposed to Abstinence-Only, is the instructor able to deliver a compelling message for Abstinence?  We recently heard about a P.E. Coach providing Abstinence-Only instruction while wearing ‘Jersey Shore’ sweatpants.  Children are smart.  We should never underestimate the effect of a contradictory message during such an important subject.

Peer Group: Many programs have interactive discussions.  Some programs are merely instruction using anonymous note cards for questions.  The Instructor’s guidance through this discussion is an important part of a Parents decision.  Does the Instructor read/entertain every question or is discretion built into the program and presentation?  Parents should be aware of the Peer Group that is in the room for the instruction.

An Opt-Out process is made efficient when the Parent signs the form and the Instructor sends a notification to the Parent acknowledging receipt and intent to honor the request.  I wrote ‘Please confirm receipt’ at the bottom of my child’s Opt-Out form and received such acknowledgement.  This ‘closed loop’ Opt-Out provided me with peace of mind until I learned that my child was the only student that had been singled out in the entire grade.

My hope is that discerning parents do not give in to blind trust, peer pressure, and apathy.  We should all know without any doubt that the instruction that is being provided is exactly what our child needs at that time in his/her life.  But…

When in Doubt, Opt Out.

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